A story written for the 18 Wheel Angels Campaign by Janey, Gilbert's sister:
MONDAY March 30, 2009 --“I sit here struggling to find the words to describe what I have become and to explain the deterioration of my life as a result of my brother, Gilbert's, disappearance. It has been nearly 5 agonizing years, and my soul has been ravaged! So many thoughts race through my head trying to convince myself that I'm not a loser or a failure for not finding my brother. I have tried everything possible to locate him, and have accomplished nothing! I have been on the news numerous times, the stories on Gilbert's disappearance are countless, and then there are the letters! (The FBI, The President, America's Most Wanted, The Chief of Police, The Governor, Oprah, Dr. Phil, Montel Williams, etc.) You name it, but it doesn't matter!
All I want is to go back in time, or to eliminate the year 2004 from history. I will never forget the phone call from my mother. It was October 9, 2004. Her words are still imbedded in my mind, as if it were yesterday. "Janey, I haven't heard from Gilbert in 3 days." I knew then like I know now that it would be my worst nightmare come true!
When my mother left for work on October 6, 2004, she never would have imagined that it would be the very last time that she would see her only son. Perhaps her only consolation is that she got to cook a meal together with him.
We have attempted to recreate the scenario of that dreadful day as best as possible. As my mother left for work, she reminded Gilbert to put the chicken curry in the refrigerator after he had eaten, so it wouldn't spoil, and so she could have some for dinner later in the evening. He said, "Not a problem." And, they said their usual goodbyes.
Later in the day, Gilbert's friend, Larry, came over to hang out with him. They decided to walk to a nearby store. On the way to the store, another friend, Hans, stopped and picked Gilbert and Larry up. Gilbert and Larry jumped into the pick up bed of Hans' red Nissan. After going to the store, they returned to Gilbert's residence to figure what they wanted to do the rest of the day. Larry stayed a brief while longer before departing.
Unfortunately, my mother waited several days before contacting the police. Looking back, I realize that this was a huge mistake! She truly believed that Gilbert was coming home and didn't want to create any havoc in his life by alerting the police. Even though Gilbert had never done this before, she just wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt. Perhaps she was in a bit of denial, and couldn't address her own fears.
A week after Gilbert's disappearance, my mother questions Hans, as he was one of the last confirmed to be seen with Gilbert. Her interrogation didn't go that well, and Hans nonchalance still doesn't sit well with me.
Hans told my mother, "I haven't seen Gilbert in a couple of months." She replied, "Don't lie! People saw you with him last week." Hans responded, "Oh yeah, I forgot, but I dropped him off at home."
THIS IS WHERE IT ENDS. THE LAST TIME THAT GILBERTS CELL PHONE WAS USED WAS OCTOBER 6, 2004 AT 4:22 PM.
IF ANYONE OUT THERE KNOWS ANYTHING, PLEASE CONTACT DETECTIVE PHIL CAMERO at 808-529-3394.
I have come to the realization that I will probably never see my brother again; however, I will not give up on hope. There isn't a day that goes by without him crossing my mind. I dream about him frequently, and encourage everyone to love your family! You never know how much time you have together!
I would like to share a letter that I wrote to Gilbert. It is also in my book "GILBERT C. HURRY HOME I JUST WANT TO SAY I LOVE YOU!"Dear Gilbert,
I miss you so much that it hurts. The pain that I feel is
beyond description. I'm so sorry for giving you grief during our
last Thanksgiving dinner. That is probably the only regret that
I have in my life. I can't wait until you get home. We have so
much catching up to do. Everything is pretty much the same with
me. As usual, there is nothing exciting to report.
You've missed out on so much during the last few years.
There have been quite a few ups and downs. Unfortunately, mom
suffered a heart attack in November of 2004. Aunty Linda passed
away in December of 2004. Aunty Anne also left us in January
of 2005. It's such a shame that you didn't have the opportunity
to say goodbye.
On a positive note, I have some wonderful news for you. Our
family has expanded. We have a nephew now! Jonette had a
baby boy on March 2, 2006. His name is JonPaul.
When you're finally settled in, I'll fly you out to visit with
me. We shipped dad's bike to California. It's in a million pieces,
so you better get to it quickly. George wants to build it with you.
I also can't wait to take you to your first NFL game. I guess
for you, I'll even tolerate any race of your choice!
Also, I never told you this, but you're supposed to walk me
down the aisle. I love you with all my heart!
Hurry home! I just want to say I love you . . .
I urge anyone who knows anything to please help. You too could face a similar situation in life, so please step forward and do the right thing. I also want to thank everyone who has assisted, listened, or encouraged me during this troubling time!
Janey Lee CaravalloWWW.FINDGILBERT.COMWWW.GILBERT.NET